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Don’t Be ‘That Guy’ when Commenting

Don’t Be ‘That Guy’ when Commenting

by on June 25, 2010 · 279 comments

As a blogger I understand the significance of comments, they mean a lot to us. Some bloggers more than others, the recent parody by Telling Dad was a huge hit because of the truth in it, just knowing people care enough to stop what they are doing and post a comment can mean so much. We all know comments are important, they provide support for the writer and can be a great place for lively debate where appropriate.

There is another side to comments too- they can also benefit to the commenter, a comment can bring readers to your blog, can help move you up the social ladder by having your ‘avatar’ and blog name seen in multiple places, a good comment on a popular blog can gain the attention of the writer, potentially resulting in a mention or another form of help from the esteemed blogger. The right comment can reap multiple rewards for you if you play your cards right, along with knowing you have made someone’s day brighter by leaving a comment!

So who is ‘that guy’ you ask? That guy is the one who posts a comment that is not contributing to the post, not helping support the writer, and certainly won’t result in any gained influence for the commenter. That guy leaves comments all over with no regard, resulting in posts like this that try, unsuccessfully, to help change the world… but ‘that guy’ is probably not reading this, he probably does not spend his time reading blogs that will help him become a better blogger, otherwise he would have learned a long time ago that spam does not equal love. So these posts are written for the bloggers, the ones who will read this and instantly recognize the behaviors below so we can all comment and share our worst commenter experience, laugh about it, hit empty spam, and continue to write and strive for those comments that mean something.

That Guy” is the commenter that is…

Outright Spammy- Oh yeah, thank goodness for askimet, run a blog for more than a day or two and forget to activate it and you will be flooded with spam! Not even trying to act human, they just blast the internet with useless junk.

Irrelevant- this may be a genuine person, not trying to spam, but when they leave a random comment on a post that would be served up best in your email, twitter, or even facebook. It is rude, just like in real life and someone finishes a story and you jump in and talk about your car… rude!

Everywhere and Nowhere- some comments make you wonder if they are commenting for the sake of commenting, just to see how many they can leave in a day, and never reading a single word of the actual blog post- commenting with things like “Great Post!” or worse yet, the comments you get from blog hops or memes= “Popping in from xyz bloghop!” – Yeah, but what did you think of the post?

So Shameless- commenting to leave a link is another way ‘that guy’ pisses me off. “Check out my post SPAM”, if your post is that good then you should feature it somewhere on your blog, easy to find, then leave a relevant comment where people will want to visit your site and in turn find that well placed article. Or better yet, if the blogger uses CommentLuv then register, upgrade, and add that incredibly helpful post as one of your options on all blogs with the plugin- see, a NOT-spammy way to advertise.

Egotistical- when ‘that guy’ gets a comment on HIS blog, he returns the love, he visit’s the commenter’s blog and leaves a comment… nice thought right? All bloggers should strive to return love, but visiting a blog, picking a post and commenting with something like “Thanks for visiting my Blog” is just plain rude. If you do not have time to read the post and leave a good comment in return, don’t bother, it is much better than a comment just to let everyone know you got a visitor today.

Your Turn

I am sure you have more to add, I could go on and on if I really wanted to bore you! What are your least favorite kinds of comments? Have a funny comment to share? Whatever you do though- don’t be ‘that guy’. :-)

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Article by evelester

I am a web designer, a blogger, and a work from home mom. I run three blogs currently; Money Hungry Momma, Everyday Eve, and Letters to Breathe. I have been a blogger for as long as I can remember, have sold many of my older blogs to focus on new projects and family.

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Mark July 3, 2011 at 1:35 pm

LOL!!! I used to be “that buy” when commenting on blogs.

From the beginning we are all taught of the necessity of networking by commenting on other blogs.

This, in itself can become monotonous and time consuming. However, after having enabled commentluv and keywordluv on my own blogs, I quickly found out how annoying comment spam can be.

Whenever I comment on blogs now, I make sure and read the article so that my comment is at least relevant.

Hopefully, it actually adds value to the page instead of just draining its link juice.

Thanks for the confirmation evelester…:)

Mark
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Bican Valeriu March 14, 2011 at 7:56 am

“One guy” … Excuse my english !

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Bican Valeriu March 14, 2011 at 7:55 am

Yes, you are right. On guy commented on one of my blogs saying that one of his cousins stole his Ipad and he broke it and he felt to share this with someone even if my blog was about dogs. :)

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Phillip Gibb February 15, 2011 at 4:26 am

I want That Guy on my blog. Because That Guy is at least making an effort to say something.
True, on blogs that get hundreds of comments you don’t want too many spammy, irrelevant,etc comments.
On a blog where people struggle to illicit any form of opinion in the comments I’ll assume that the author is happy to get them without too much criticism.
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Pulkit Gera November 17, 2010 at 1:13 pm

Great article … but does a serious blogger with a popular website get the time to visit a commentator’s blog, read an article or two and then leave a thoughtful reply?
Maybe if they worked really long hours, or hired someone to do it.
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jonny October 11, 2010 at 7:46 pm

I love when people actually take time to read the blog and not just post crap comments .

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Joe August 24, 2010 at 9:13 am

Congrats Eve on winning in the ComLuv contest!

Joe :D
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Trevor B. Reed August 16, 2010 at 12:38 pm

Great post! I also think of “that guy” as the guy who just seems angry. He comments everywhere and never has anything nice to say. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good debate, but keep it civil and fair. I have read so many comments that attack the person, not the position it makes me sick. Have your opinion, express it, argue it with vigor, but don”t be a jerk about it.
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Laura August 15, 2010 at 10:03 pm

Great article! I loved your humor :)

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Shasta August 3, 2010 at 10:46 am

Since reading this I can proudly say that I am no longer “that guy”! Thanks for the insightful article! It has been so helpful to me, and I’m sure the many blogs I comment on are thankful!
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evelester August 6, 2010 at 3:41 pm

thanks Shasta! I am glad it helped!!
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Paul Osborne August 2, 2010 at 8:31 am

Unfortunately, all the time there is a place to leave a backlink, webmasters will be exploiting it. As the main SERPs improve their algorithms these spammy type of links will become totally totally worthless, and the spammers will give up and move on to the next thing. Until that time sadly its just something that we will have to accept.

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evelester August 6, 2010 at 3:45 pm

so true Paul- just like anything, people will take advantage if they can- it is just up to us to moderate and keep things clean on our end to help those that are legit.
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Janice July 27, 2010 at 5:06 pm

SO true!

I love any comment that shows the person cares about you or what your wrote!
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evelester July 28, 2010 at 11:13 am

Thanks Janice, same here- as long as I feel the love it is all good!
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